What I learned in my 20's

I have spent more than half of the second decade of my life and one thing I learned was that the life changes rapidly after 20. Suddenly you get a lot of responsibilities on your shoulders and it may seem like everybody else have figured everything out and you are still the same old you. If you are feeling the same, this is for you. 

When you are in 20s people expect a lot of things from you. To graduate with flying colours, find a job that pays you well, find your significant other, get married, make babies, buy a vehicle.. the list is endless. Suddenly for some people it becomes a competition. Especially with social media where people post almost everything that goes in their lives, you feel the urge to catch up and live the perfect life the other people are living in. But trust me, everybody is struggling and everybody presents their best version to the public. The person who bought the vehicle is struggling to pay the loan, the perfect couple on Facebook may be fighting and the insecurity is forcing them to appear perfect in public,  the person with the job might be having depression. You never know. You might be envying someone else while that person envies the life they think you have. I can give you a good example. People envy others when they move to another country, but here I am envying people living in my country because they live with their loved ones and I am alone here 5200 miles away from them. What you have to understand is that is what life is. Everything has a price. It's the opportunity cost.

The second most important thing is that because of all of the above reasons I mentioned people are unnecessary stressed out and it could make them dump that stress on you. For an example I have seen people making others feel bad about their achievements just because they have insecurities about themselves. Do not let anyone make you feel small. Just know why they are doing it, smile and move on. Never ever let anyone look down on you. 

Learn to be happy by yourself. Never jump into relationships unless you are happy and stable. My idea of a strong person is that no matter what happens, no matter who are with you, you should have a livelihood. Never be a dependent. When you have a path of life and you are content with yourself, everything else will fall into places. 

If you feel like you are falling behind in life and others are moving forward, believe in the process. Even if you are slow, you are still moving forward. Destination is what matters. Trust the process and move on with your pace. You will get everything you deserve!